Let me apologize in advance for what may be an upsetting piece of writing for some of you. If you're in a state of shock or exhaustion from recent events, perhaps you should skip this one.
I don't offer this analysis in order to further distress anyone — but until you understand what is happening and how that influences your psychological state, you'll remain the emotional equivalent of a rag doll shaken to-and-fro by events.
Such understanding may not bring you to a place of calm acceptance. But it will set you free.