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  • Sun, Feb 26, 2012 - 03:56pm

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    Wendy S. Delmater

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    yer doin’ it wrong :-)

Maceves and anyone else reading this thread? A brief description of an effective online personals ad seems in order.

A personals ad is an advertisement; the wording is ad copy. I spent a great deal of time studying advertising, and it all boils down to some simple priciples.

1. What’s the beneft? The most common problem I see with personals ads is that are they are all about the advertiser: I want. I need, I”m looking for. (And maceves,  despite the movie “Must Love Dogs” “You should” and “must” can be off-putting as they come across as commands.) The person reading your ad needs to know what’s in it for him or her? Why should they answer you, contact you? What problems will you solve for them? What are your features? In advertiser-speak, “What’s the benefit?” I find touting freatures is particularly hard for women as many of us are taught to be modest and self-effacing. Men, on the other hand, need ot be careful that they don’t come off as boasting.

But either way, by listing what you have to offer you are showing him or her what needs you can fulfiil, what problems you can solve. And by thinking of the other person’s needs you are setting yourself apart from the other advertisers.

Maceves, you let your readers know that you are in good health and have health insurance: that’s excellent.

2. Be a little quirky. The music industry did some research, and they found out that when some of the notes are slightly off  a song is more memorable. (Think of certain early Beatles songs such as “All You Need Is Love” to see that in aciton). Sounding perfect does not help your case. In fact, it can get in the way. Part of the reason does not apply to maceves ad: hookers are mostly no longer on street corners; they are on the internet, pretending to be women looking for a relationship. I cannot tell you how often I got the comment, “You sound like a real peson.” As opposed to a lady with her “for rent” shingle out? I took that as a compliment, and maceves should too: she sounds real.

So put your odd quirks or silliness or weird little habits on display, in a humorous way. My ad that started, “She cooks, she cleans, she can spit a watermelon seed further than you can,” is a good example.

Maceves. you do a lot of this with phrases like “Must not want to take all my worms fishing” and (regarding the bug out bag and bug out location), “You show me yours and I’ll show you mine.” Priceless.

3. Be brief. The main reason you write an ad like this is to start communitcating with a potential mate. Men reading the personals are reading ads by many other women, and they are looking for a reasons to cut the list of  potential mates down to manageable size. Like a hiring manager with 300 resumes of one job (mate), they are trying to pick a few people to conact (email or phone screening) and then one or two to interrview (date).

Too much detail in the original ad gives the reader more potenial reasons to put your relationship resume in the discard pile. Save a lot of the detail for the phone screening and more for the “interview.” You up your odds that someone will respond if you make them ask for more informaiton.

Hope some of this helps.

Safewrite
 

  • Sun, Feb 26, 2012 - 07:27pm

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    Mary Aceves

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    hmmm…

 I wasn’t really taking this assignment too seriously, but more to show how really bizarre a prepper’s ad would be, but I’ll think about that…

  • Mon, Feb 27, 2012 - 04:46am

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    Travlin

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    Nailed it

safewrite wrote:

Maceves and anyone else reading this thread? A brief description of an effective online personals ad seems in order.

A personals ad is an advertisement; the wording is ad copy. I spent a great deal of time studying advertising, and it all boils down to some simple priciples.

See the post for the rest.  Travlin

Safewrite

You nailed it.  A professional copywriter couldn’t have said it better.

Congratulations on your book too.  I bet I’d really enjoy reading it, but I’ll have to take a pass.  I don’t want to give my wife any ideas.  She still thinks I’m pretty special and I want to keep her in a delusional state. 

Travlin 

  • Mon, Feb 27, 2012 - 03:02pm

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    gregroberts

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     I do have operating a

 I do have operating a wringer washer in my skill set….

Careful with that, my grandmother found out there’s more to that old saying then just a descriptive one liner.

  • Sun, Apr 19, 2015 - 08:11am

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    SocratesR

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    stone age prepper

Reasonable demands! Well thought out. It looks like we share a decent experience in these matters.

I'm for preparing for something serious enough to wipe nearly all of our ancestors off the face of the Earth 13,000 years ago. I respect our ancestors; they were neither stupid, retarded,  nor suicidal. And that means that whatever keeps coming around will take SERIOUS action and not the 'limited cataclysm' take on things.

If you're up to that, visit teomcrote.co.nf and get in touch with me.

Thanks

  • Tue, Sep 08, 2020 - 08:57am

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    fertooos

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    Looking for like-minded. Is there a singles thread?

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  • Mon, Sep 14, 2020 - 07:36am

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    cindyb

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    Looking for like-minded. Is there a singles thread?

I have thought about starting one because I am looking too.

Great profile Maceves.

I am a silver-haired Permaculturist in Maine and my full profile is on greensingles.com

 

 

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