How to control your feelings !!
I wanted to know how everyone else control their feeling of anger towards bankers or the system where their 401(k) is not safe, bankers get gigantic bonuses for looting, people are jobless and govt. is planning of fighiting another war, Obama accepts “peace” prize after sending in more troops …………… I get so annoyed that I have to stop reading or watching and calm myself down. ………….
Am I alone?
I don’t even know why I feel so angry, I just graduated out of school and have absolutely nothing much as saving, no house , no car , no nothing really to loose.I am just an immigrant who has been in US for 4 years.
And I know that I will go back to from where I came, when this all unravels!
I also sometimes feel very wierd when I finish reading an article and realize that all this has no effect on life around me, even if I mention a part of it to others, they look at me as if I have just finished watching some 2012 movie ………..
How can people here be so ignorant !!
On top of all this I have tried (like many others in the community) to talk to near and dears, Nope …….. they won’t listen and I am already a branded a moron 🙁 …………..
I just wanted to know if I am over-reacting !!
you are certainly not alone.
Anger is useful because it highlights things in our lives which need to change. It is possible to channel the energy behind anger and direct it towards positive action which manifests real transformation in our lives. When we are thus usefully occupied we learn to accept that there is only so much we can do. We do that much and feel satisfied that we have done it. If we do so much and still feel angry than there is more that we could be doing and more that we could be accepting.
Don’t take things too seriously. Accept the world as it is, and be at peace with yourself. Life is a game. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t fight hard to change the world if you can, but while you’re waiting for the world to change, let your blood pressure come down.
There’s an enormous amount of evil in the world — enough to keep you angry for many lifetimes. But there’s also an enormous amount of good out there. Put on the rose-colored glasses every once in a while, and you’ll be surprized at how many nice things the world has to offer.
That’s great advice no matter what you believe.
Start a website…
Your in shock. You just got a big dose of the red pill and it takes a while to sink in. Things have always been this way it’s just that its more obvious to you now.
Put you energy into using it to your advantage by preparing as best you can. IMHO trying to convert people is a waste of time. Those that feel something is up will investigate and those that watch CNBC only see green shoots.
Good advice from the above posters. At the risk of reiterating what’s already been said: use the energy in your emotions to Go Do Something. Whether personal prep, joining a group that’s working on an aspect of the 3Es, or something else — get busy. As one of my mentors told me: “Use your emotions around this as a whetstone to hone your intent down to a razor edge.” Figuring out what one’s intent should be in the hard work, IMO (and it’s personal to each individual). Good luck!
Viva — Sager
nb: edited for grammar
Thanks Guys for the wonderful advice.
Crash, you’re spot-on there, I feel that I can do more but I failed at telling others to start working on improving things around them. That’s probably the reason I feel unsatisfied and maybe for the same reason, angry at times when I feel like a wingless chicken watching everything unraveling.
I take it that I cannot control what others do and think, so JhonyOxygen is right, I can try to talk to only those who are open to talking and otherwise prepare myself for it.
The only problem is that I need my family to work with me on this, I can’t do it all alone, I hopefully will be able to convince them to atleast talk about why it doesn’t make sense to them ! ……. until then I will have to do whatever little I can.
jrf29, that really is some quality advice. One can be angry all day if we just look at the bad and the unfair.
Maybe I can find a group in my area, with whom I can work and provide some help and earn some calm of mind for myself in the process. (thanks Sager)
I am glad that I put this post out.
Cipher, good thread.
“As one of my mentors told me: “Use your emotions around this as a whetstone to hone your intent down to a razor edge.” Figuring out what one’s intent should be in the hard work, IMO (and it’s personal to each individual). “
I never quite thought of it that way, Sager! Figuring out one’s intent is different (a step away) from setting a goal, which should really be the product of intent. So the more explicitly we think and define it, the better. I can see where my prep work goes through instability at times (“requirements shift”); how far and in what direction do I want to go with the changes in my life, given everyone around me is still living life like it is “normal”, and the more I do, the whackier they think I am? And given that the more I do to prepare, the more stressful it is trying to live a “normal” life at the same time?
Is my intent to pacify myself to the extent that I don’t really rattle the current framework of my life, and my family members’ lives? (And at what potenial cost?) I would say that’s where I am now.
Is my intent to do everything within my power now to mitigate the risks facing my family, even if it does rattle the current framework of our lives, and incurr monumental changes/disruptions to our current way of life (e.g., move to Costa Rica and be next-door neighbors with Jim Willie? Just kidding, Jim!:)
Is it my intent to consciously select what level of preparation I will strive for, and what level I will not? E.g. is it my intent to consiously select not to prepare for the worst case scenario(s), knowingly taking that risk and making the trade-off for a higher quality of life now (as my husband chooses)?
I think your mentor gave good advice.
I think your mentor gave good advice.
Thanks pinecarr. I have been very fortunate with respect to individuals who have been able to educate/enlighten/challenge me. They just seem to show up when I’m ready for the next step.
Yah — setting intent helps me suss out what it is I really want/need. Helps prevent me from wasting time running off madly and only down the road a bit getting clearer on where it is I actually want to end up.
Viva — Sager