How did you come to be not-partnered?
Was it by lifelong choice? Circumstance? Death, separation, divorce? Were you imagining a resilient lifestyle with a partner or without one? There must be quite a range of circumstances here.
I myself have always been resilience-minded, even before I had a inkling of what it meant or why it was important. I always imagined myself partnered with someone who valued that perspective. I suddenly found myself unpartnered two years ago due to separation and eventual divorce, and now I'm revising my resiliency plans to accommodate going it alone. My ex-partner did not share the value of resilience and so in some ways it's easier now than ever to shift my lifestyle in that direction.
I am curious about the variety of perspectives we bring to this group. How did you come to be a person who would fit in with a group like this one?
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I would rather be called crazy then the zombies or united nations goons roasting me over a open flame.
something more unsettling in the air now,ex thought i was nuts for all the propane and water and food. she the ex now lol her skinny butt up for grabs as I hunker down lol cant we just all get along and coexist ?
oboma /biden stickers 2012 get my stove goin lol
on is never tottally prepped till there last breath. taking long hard breath and pulling *******
big smile as i as i assssss i they will remember me.
love yourself, your country,your family and friends. protect all
I got a little bit of hope
Like a soap on a rope
Sweeter than sour
But getting thinner by the hour
Falling fast, and I'm running out of gas. . . Better Than Ezra
I wanted a "life of my own" and now I have it but it was not my original desire. My original dream was to be with someone who would be a friend, lover and partner in life, not just someone's maid with benefits. I still have hope for the future because I was told that dream to be with a life partner, is a life mission for me and not to give it up. It explains why after having been through so much, I still have that burning desire.
I'm a 59 year old active, attractive woman living in the Mid-West who is available. I'm fixing up my house and moving to Idaho because it is rated 5 stars in the "Strategic Relocation" book and I want to live in a like minded community, living a simpler life on my own land, preferably with a mate. If anyone is interested, drop me a line. I make a damn fine friend, if you get to know me.
Best regards to everyone!
I wasn't de-partnered by choice so much as survival. I was working towards self-sufficiency alone while my ex made every bad decision, one after another, and covered them with deception and outright lies. At this point, when many tens of thousands of dollars were diverted to pay for secret debts I sincerely hope TS does not HTF any time soon. Instead of being ready with all the equipment, food stocks and negotiable items necessary to survive and thrive for the rest of our lives, I will be re-starting.
Would I want a like-minded partner? Hell yeah! But it seems that finding a like-minded person anywhere is difficult, and this small subset of the population we make up does tend to attract a fair number who are, shall we say, already teetering over the edge. The various prepper dating sites allow like-minded people to find each other, but if people are to meet through those sites they have to be willing to actually communicate with them and eventually meet in person. Texting and emails are easy, but a poor substitute for a real face-to-face conversation. It's too easy to avoid that final step in determining compatibility.
Maybe I'm just grumpy! But I live in a great place, away from large cities, and got my "stuff" together so why is it that after weeks or months of trading emails, texts and phone calls people are still afraid to meet someone new? I think it has a lot to do with that "devil you know" mentality, but it seems like the bigger risk than another failed relationship would be to possibly miss out on being able to live a great life, whatever happens in the world, if that's what a person really wants. Sometimes people are so paralyzed by the fear of making a mistake, that they make an even bigger one by not taking that opportunity when it shows itself.
May I copy & paste your experience? I've gone through the same thing and sit here wondering, what just happened? Six months ago, living on a beautiful mountain range, having prepped for the past 13 years. And now, I too, am re-starting. I believe there's just something within all of us that HAS to get ready. Guess I'm still in shock, and trying to figure out the next steps and probably head west again in a year or two, and pray for God's grace and mercy. And yes, that "bigger risk' of a failed relationship you mentioned… I took that risk, and I think I lost. Well, not really. I still have MY integrity and faith. And having researched this "stuff" for 18 years, somehow, I just can't stop knowing that it must be done, as much as possible, with what I've got. God will watch my back. I actually signed up here just because I need that little bit of hope that comes from communicating with like-minded people. It brings strength to get back up and keep putting one foot ahead of the other. Godspeed on your journey; there's a reason for all that happens. If we look for it, we'll see it.
Yes, you do still have your integrity and everything you've learned over the years can be applied to wherever you go now. I'm sorry to hear of your shock — I have been there and it's quite a process. I hope that your path will be clear and your resources near at hand. I'm glad you're here.
You didn't lose, although it may seem that way right now. You'll come back tougher and smarter after everything shakes out.
some of us live just fine sans a partner…..don't believe the hype that life isn't life without one…..well we all did once but 2x?
go live your life as you see the way to do it….the universe will either support you as a single or provide a partner…push it and you could repeat the disaster.
companionship can be costly so can single life…..do the math and then choose.
i can't afford one right now….too expensive.
besides , i've done everything already on my own….
who do i need? it no longer becomes about need…it's who can enhance my life.?
Expect a 5 year "period of adjustment."
Do not date for the next 5 years. Most men spend more effort checking out a new car than checking out their erstwhile partner. It requires clarity of thought.
Thanks to all for your encouragement. I feel amongst friends here.