HELP Talking to my wife about The Crash Course…

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  • Tue, Jan 14, 2020 - 12:55pm

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    Kevin

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    HELP Talking to my wife about The Crash Course…

Anyone have advice on how to gently share the crash course with your spouse? Was thinking I would schedule time to sit and watch the crash course over a couple of days.

She’s known Im very concerned about peak oil, etc for 10+ years, but when she realizes we will need to completely change our lives (and eventually sell our very urban home), it will be upsetting to her. But she is an accountant, so she will “get it”.

Is there a blog on dealing with emotional spouses? My wife gets very emotional.

So glad to be with you all and thank you to Chris and Adam!

Kevin

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  • Thu, Jan 16, 2020 - 07:52am

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    Three things that might help

Kevin, I don’t know anything about how to talk to someone who gets very emotional over things, but here are some other ideas.

1) If your wife is an accountant, perhaps she would like to read some of the posts of Gail Tverberg’s blog since Gail is an actuary and gives talks at many venues in her field and has written at several websites for many years. You could go her posts of the last couple of years and find one or two to introduce your wife to the subject. https://ourfiniteworld.com/ 

2) I have read on various sites that if you want to bring some different information to someone without them automatically blocking/denying it, you first have to link it to their core values. If they see that this new information aligns with their values (or some of them), then they are less likely to block “the facts.”

3) Someone might find sitting down and watching the entire Crash Course as way too much information, and possibly way too shocking, and therefore discount what it says. To interest her in looking at this material, maybe you could pick out one or two of the separate short clips instead and  watch those with her, talk about them, and then pick another one or two. This would be feeding her this info in manageable small bites instead of making her choke on it. Also, if she likes to read, or if she learns things better through reading and re-reading rather than hearing it once on a video clip, you might print out the Transcripts that go with the clips so she can go over the material more slowly after watching the clip. But first, go through the transcript and clean it up, because most of the transcripts have some pretty weird typos that might either confuse her or put her off.

  • Thu, Jan 16, 2020 - 09:08pm

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    Becca had some posts on reluctant partners

Here’s one of them: https://www.peakprosperity.com/dealing-with-a-reluctant-partner/

 

DM Chris or Adam. I’m sure they could send you links to more. Good luck!

 

Paul

  • Thu, Jan 16, 2020 - 09:21pm

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    Resources for successfully engaging your spouse/partner

Yes, Paul beat me to the punch here.

Kevin: the first thing to know is that YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Chris, I and the majority of PP.com readers have all experienced the challenge of trying to see eye-to-eye on ‘The Three Es’ with our spouse/partner.

And while there’s no magic formula, we do have some resources that will definitely help.

I like that you used the adverb “gently”. Keep that as your north star in this process and your odds for success will increase 🙂

cheers,

A

  • Fri, Jan 17, 2020 - 01:03pm   (Reply to #2)

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    re: Three things that might help

To all 3 of you, thank you so much! These are great resources. I havent heard of Gail Tverberg, but looking into her now.

Also great info from Adam.

Do you all recommend jumping in with both feet and trying to go to the May 1-3 conference? Or take it slower?

Thanks again, Kevin

  • Fri, Jan 17, 2020 - 01:22pm   (Reply to #2)

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    Biased response

Do you all recommend jumping in with both feet and trying to go to the May 1-3 conference? Or take it slower?

Well, I’d recommend it. But since it’s my own conference, I’m a pretty biased source 🙂

If anyone reading this has attended one of our past seminars with a spouse/partner, I’d appreciate you weighing in with your experience, to give Kevin a fairer picture.

But, Kevin, I will say that from my personal observation across a decade of these seminars, *most of the time* it’s a very successful catalyst for bridging the divide that many couples have around this material.

That doesn’t necessarily mean your wife will enthusiastically leap on the PP train and start sharing the Crash Course with all her friends when you get home.

But hopefully she will:

  1. understand much better why this material is important to YOU and respect that, and
  2. realize that PP isn’t a doomsday prepper cult, and instead is full of wonderfully intelligent people with a desire to do good in the world.

The latter tends to be the more common surprise factor for ‘reluctant’ partners who come with reticence. They’re not expecting to enjoy themselves so much and be so inspired.

That said, I’ve seen one or two times when a partner tapped out early on. I can’t promise that won’t happen in your case; but given the little you’ve shared about your wife above, I don’t get the sense there’s a big danger of that.

Hope we see you in May!

cheers,

Adam

  • Fri, Jan 17, 2020 - 01:42pm   (Reply to #2)

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    re: Biased response

Very very helpful Adam. Ill start digesting this material and maybe move towards that direction of attending the conference. Do you all have a forum or a page for where all of the details are shared? (Like suggested travel airports and hotel options, etc)? Thank you

  • Fri, Jan 17, 2020 - 05:37pm

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    Emotional…or conservative…spouses?

Any spouse who is an accountant is likely wary of claims like Peal Oil. Were it me making the case I would try to moderate my position. Unless I had a long track record of minority yet accurate predictions.

In the Peal Oil case, any critical thinker (read: accountant) will look back at prior predictions and wonder if said timetable will be accurate. Especially if you have talked about it years ago with no results. Remember, accountants have seen many people go bust following accurate long term predictions that come true…just not in their lifetime. Wives then have “show me the money” instincts, since kids have to be fed “now” not some theoretical time in the future. But good luck!

  • Sat, Jan 18, 2020 - 03:23pm

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    Seminar page

Yep. Here’s the page with all the details on this year’s seminar.

cheers,

A

  • Wed, Jan 22, 2020 - 07:30pm

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    Business-oriented spouses

My spouse, also a conservative business type, found the economic sections of the Prosper book a good place to start.   All I added was that exponential growth is like compound interest.  Providing facts and trends that are not available on MSM is a good good way to start people thinking.

Urban dwellers who like the cities where they live are not going to be overly responsive to the idea that larger American urban areas can quickly become unlivable.  Changing communities is something many people are going to resist.

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